I saw this little yellow top, sitting in Zara like a pretty daffodil, and I instantly wanted it. The problem was, it’s cropped length, and very full, which presents a bit of a problem for me.
Now I know you ladies will understand, but we all have those hang-ups about our bodies, and mine has always been about my hips. I used to have a friend who called them “child-bearing” which I thought was a nice way to put it, but what it boils down to is that I don’t like them.
I’m well aware that as a size 6 girl, I have nothing to complain about. But mirrors can be nasty things, and so can our minds sometimes.
I normally get around this “problem” easily enough. If I want to wear something fitted like leggings or skinny jeans, I always wear a slightly longer top to hide the area I don’t like. I like my waist, so I go for high-waisted bottoms that skim over my hips (skater skirts, midi skirts, pants, culottes, shorts etc.). This top is so full that I knew I wouldn’t be able to do this. I would end up looking like some sort of discoloured pumpkin.
I definitely needed to off-set the frills of the top with something fitted, so I gave myself a little internal lecture, and went shopping for jeans. Never have I ever had such difficulty looking for jeans. Usually, I know that I’ll be pairing them with a top that hides everything I don’t like, but this time I was so overly critical of everything I tried on that I started feeling a bit despondent, and the familiar negativity started to creep in.
As a last-ditch effort, I went into General Pants Co. I wish I knew the sales assistant’s name so I could give her due credit, because she was so helpful and enthusiastic that in 20 mins, I walked out with my favourite pair of jeans I have ever owned. I felt so good in them that I paired them with the yellow top, and I know they’ll be my new go-tos from here on out. It just goes to show what a little bit of patience, and someone who knows their way around denim can do. The assistant continually ran around the store until I had a pair that were the right wash, length, rise and stretch.
I decided to take this angle in today’s post because I think body image and body confidence are so important. As a ballet teacher, mostly to adolescent girls, I am fully aware that we all have some sort of confidence issue when it comes to our bodies. I’ve heard people complain about everything from cellulite to the length of their neck, to the way their fingers look in photographs. Sometimes these hang-ups become so blown out of proportion that they can be debilitating to our sense of self worth and even end up impacting our everyday lives and decisions. The number of times I haven’t bought an item of clothing I really loved because I looked at it on the shelf and thought, “that will make me look enormous,” is absurd. Even as a 36kg teenager, I refused to wear certain leotards to ballet because I was convinced they accentuated what I saw as my “problem areas”. I’m sure you can all relate.
I strongly feel that the only way to better our confidence as women is to be open and honest, and have conversations that sometimes aren’t easy to have. I hope this post resonates with some of you, and encourages you to face tomorrow feeling empowered, confident, beautiful, and ready to try new things.